For this newsletter we interviewed Kriszly de Hond about the upcoming event a Puppies Night out @ The Web.
Could you briefly explain what puppy play means?
"Pupplay is a game in which you deal with each other in a simple, playful way, by adopting the mindset of a puppy. It is low-threshold, intimate and social, without being necessarily sexual.
You can see it like that; the puppy play of today is like you would play with a real dog at home. He / she likes attention, likes to play games like fetch and find the ball, and if the pup listens well you might be able to teach him 1 or 2 tricks!
Just like with a real dog, you will never hit, kick or hurt a human puppy in any other way.
A puppy can be playful, sometimes mischievous or idiosyncratic. And maybe not always listening carefully ... Stick here and bark and you have the basics of Puppy-play!
Puppy-play, like many other fetishes, falls under the name BDSM.
I have learned that it started as a way where the dominant (also called the "Master" or "Sir") punished the submissive (also called the "slave" or "boy") if he did not carry out his assignment properly. Or did not meet the expectations of the dominant. Here the submissive was "humiliated" or "punished" by walking on hands and knees, drinking / eating from dog bins or barking like a dog. This was called "dog play".
After a while, the submissive started to like this way of humiliating or punishing, and the hard BDSM game turned into a affectionate scene that we now know as (human) puppy play.
The dominant is now often called the "Handler" or the "owner", and there is often no question of humiliation or punishment anymore. "
How did you find out that you liked puppy play?
"My first touch with puppy play was at home with an ex-boyfriend. He does bondage and organized a workshop at his home for some friends.
Milo was among the friends. He walked in with a big weekend bag and a dog pillow under his arm; this immediately caught my attention.
As the evening progressed, Milo, sitting on the dog bed, told that he was doing puppy play. He showed us his newly purchased mask and before I knew it I had him around my head!
I've been in touch with Milo since that night. He told me everything about puppy play, about what he liked about it and how he got it, about different outfits and about finding other human puppies.
Milo got (and has!) A special place in my heart, and I was sold ..! "
And what did you do next?
"I had been playing puppy-play for less than a year when the opportunity presented itself to participate in the very first Mister Puppy Europe election.
You can compare it with a Mister Gay or Mister Leather election; a group of pups register as candidates with a goal in mind. This can be information about what puppy play is, you are committed to a charity such as the AIDS fund, or a new event for pups setting up in your area.
Then walk (crawl!) As a candidate through several rounds, in which you tell what you like about being a puppy, but also show it!
The pup who got the most points at the end of the contest is crowned as Mister Puppy Europe and can call herself the representative of the puppy scene in Europe for a year.
I had the honor of being chosen as the very first Mister Puppy Europe (February 2015).
During and after my year I worked for our community, I built a huge network and got to know people all over the world. Including my sweet, rubber loving boyfriend Max, with whom I have been together for almost three years. And my leather mentor Sir Nick. With whom I have built up a strong bond over the past 1.5 years, which I am proud of! -Quick-
Together with my puppy brother Milo and his Handler Daniel we founded Bark & Play. An afternoon once every two months where pups and owners can come together to play, relax and get to know other like-minded people.
This was such a success that the puppy scene in the Netherlands quickly came together as one family, and we started organizing our own national (and annual) puppy competition: Mister Puppy Netherlands."
Are there conditions to be able to take part in puppy play / are there conditions for puppies?
"The only conditions in my eyes for pupplay are the same as in any other (BDSM) relationship: respect the other person and respect yourself. Do not cross each other's boundaries, talk a lot about the expectations you have and dare to say "no" if you find something too exciting.
Puppy play is a very special thing for me, where all kinds of target groups come together to relax and enjoy hugs, being active, laughing, being there for each other and sometimes together to dive into a corner ..
Which prejudice(s) in relation to puppy play do you often encounter and would you like to refute?
"There are a number of prejudices that I often hear.
Having to have a lot of gear (a puppy outfit) is one of them. You basically do not need anything to be a puppy. What I do recommend is basic: soft knee protectors (volleyball) and something that protects your hands (like fingerless boxing gloves). We remain people, and no matter how you get used to it, we are not made to move on our hands and knees.
Is a puppy is always submissive.
This is also a controversial topic. I myself am a puppy who likes to be switched; one moment I lie wagging on the floor while my belly is petted, and the other moment I stand as Handler on the other side of the line. In addition, puppies can also have D / s (Dominant-submissive) ratios. As with real dogs, the puppies often express this in the roles of Alpha, Beta and Omega.
As I said above, puppy play brings together all kinds of target groups. Men, women, young, old, gay, straight, it does not matter.
Puppy play can and may be different for everyone. One likes to behave like a young, playful puppy who crawls behind a ball. The other person is more "trained" and will remain loyal to his owner. It is all part of one big game, and everyone can give it a twist in his or her way that is pleasant for them.
To conclude, I think the biggest preconception about puppy play is that it is something hardcore BDSM-like. People quickly think of humiliation, hard BDSM, furries or even bestiality (see HUMAN puppy play).
Although each puppy has its own way of playing, puppyplay is basically one of the innocent, airiest and most accepting groups in the fetish world."
If you have become curious about puppy play yourself, do not hesitate to drop by at Puppies Night Out @Web!
Kriszly and his two puppies, Sada and Finn, will give a demonstration of what puppy play entails. In addition, will there be enough room to experience for yourself what it is like, or is handler perhaps more your role?